Mother's Day is a hard one . . .

Mother’s Day is a hard day for bereaved moms.  And doesn’t that sound like the most ridiculous understatement?  “Hard” doesn’t even come close to describing it.  Perhaps excruciatingly confusing . . .

Because, in one way we wouldn’t take anything in the world for the privilege and blessing of having a child. . . . this child . . . each precious child in all their specific brilliance.   And yet many (if not all) bereaved moms would describe the loss of a child as THE worst pain she has ever felt. So when it comes to “celebrating” Mother’s Day, we can feel hopelessly confused and overwhelmed by the clash of emotions. 

For the children we thankfully still have, for the moments of tenderness we’ve been given to hold all our children, love them and feel their love in return. . . . for so many moments imprinted on our hearts that nothing can erase . . . we are endlessly grateful.  Think on these things . . . on the joys  . . . first.  Then when the ache comes, it will have a cushion of gratitude to rest on.

May your heart stretch to the width and depth it needs to take it all in.